Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Profanities- Wash Your Mouth

It is a sad thing that in today's world profanities are used carelessly. It is even sadder that profanities are used. Humans are supposed to be the intelligent creatures who have great problem solving capabilities rather than the creatures who easily spill out profanities when in a state of anger. It is ironic to boast that we have brilliant communication skills on our resumes, whilst in our real lives, we resort to the use of profanities. It is ironic to have people in positions where they are role models to others, yet they still use profanities. Then we complain about the world and how uncivilised it is, while we cannot even civilise our own manners.

What is the use of education if you cannot speak without the use of profanities? What is the use of your mind that may solve the most important issues at work but cannot solve a simple misunderstanding in your social life? There is no use, my friend. Neither your family background nor your social status nor your job title can get you respect if you lack self-respect. If you have enough self-respect (or any at all), you would not allow your tongue to lash profanities. By doing this, you would be disrespecting the person in front of you, leading them to either:

1- Curse you back or
2- Not curse you back.

If they choose the first, then there goes your respect. You have been disrespected in return; therefore, you have no self-respect; if you did, you would not have been the initiator causing someone else to disrespect you. This is a simple rule of human discourse. You can find it in many discourse analysis texts. It speaks about saving face. When you have a conversation with others you must make sure that first, you save your face and second, save the face of the person you are speaking with. You save your face by making sure that the person in front of you will not wrong you verbally (by not wronging them verbally -saving their face). If either of you wrongs the other, both of your faces will be lost and neither of you will have respect for the other. The one who wronged obviously had no respect for the one he/she wronged. The one who has been wronged obviously, will no longer have any respect for the one who wronged them (whether or not they choose to wrong them back, the wronger has already lost face). So even if you are not wronged back, your self-respect/face is already lost.

Many may argue that they only use these words when they have lost control to anger. My friend, it is in times of anger that your words are judged the most. There are many cliche sayings that put forth the idea: you know a person's manners in times of anger. These are the hardest times, and if one can control themselves during these times, then there shouldn't be any times where they cannot.

Others may argue that they rarely use profanities. What an argument that is! If you do not use profanities, then they will not be on the edge of your tongue during times of anger. You will think 10x before using one, and not use it at the end if that were your case.

You may also argue that the person in front of you deserved it. Really? Nobody deserves such words. 

You may one day forget that words you said, but the person you told them to will never forget.